Difficult Dynamic
(Memoir)
When
is it overbearing?
Certainly
not in a first round, if
ever
for justice. I ask, sorting
through
sludge, apparent
to
myself. If he suffers deeply,
perpetuating
injustice,
should
one surrender? It becomes evident in pain, where
mirrors
cringe, and liquor and drugs lose flavor. I sit and
ponder
such travesty and tragic comedy.
Details
are irrelevant.
The
issue becomes Treatment, where we
look
for the sweetness we give; otherwise, our actions
are
purely altruistic; but this is error; for if one receives
mistreatment
for good behavior, one’s philosophy is
subject
to alter.
This
isn’t a bowtie case. In fact, the issue
runs
deeper. If one takes away your freedoms, leaving you
stranded,
it’s impolite to self to say, “Thank you.” In fact,
if
one is deliberately obnoxious, we tend to avoid them;
else
we battle for our understanding of Right.
But
what
if
a perpetrator demands subservience, where it’s possible
to
do otherwise. Logic, even reason, compels one to flee
the
situation. But what if one cannot part ways, subject
to
injustice, where the perpetrator demands allegiance,
even
total control. One becomes adjusted to a situation
where
constant disrespect is normal, but absolutely
unacceptable towards the perpetrator.
I
venture to believe that
a
high level of ambivalence is presence in such a situation;
where
one acquires habits that weaken a personality, and
trickle
over into other spheres of one’s life.
But
what about
the
perpetrator: ever free to hurt others, living in pain, and
spreading
injustice. One might suggest intervention, where
friends
and family confront the perpetrator. What if the
perpetrator
refuses to change,
where
abandonment is not an
option?
In this situation, we learn to say, “Oh that’s just
so
and so, he always acts that way.” I find that this is
highly
unfair, especially where others, close to said perpetrator,
are
diligent to behave in a cordial fashion. Perpetrators
play
on one’s emotions, refusing to compromise,
notwithstanding,
an inner sense of wrongdoing.
